Whether you are made to feel unworthy or essentially ‘not good enough’ through the act of gesture or you are physically told, both are undoubtedly mentally and emotionally demoralising. As much as we try to brush it under the carpet, we reach a point where we feel as though we have hit the lowest of the low and that there is no coming back from it. The ability to bounce back after the encounter of adversity is not something that we are going to learn overnight - I am aware that it is much easier said than done. However, allowing yourself to have a negative mindset towards the situation isn’t going to lead you in the direction for solution. It’s all about mindset. From the moment you wake up to the moment you sleep. Everything is completely in your control. Your perceptions, your emotions, your thoughts and your reactions. Make it a habit to be positive.
What could seem like the worst to someone else, could actually be what is best for you. It doesn’t take a genius to work out that everyone is different, especially when it comes to situations like these. We all have our go to way of dealing with things, below is a short list of some of the coping mechanisms I find useful.
1. Talk with others – I honestly can not stress this one enough! Keeping it to yourself could lead you to overthink the situation, therefore making things appear very overwhelming. The feeling of being alone in a time of need can be very isolating, that’s why I feel it is incredibly important to know who you can trust and talk to. Luckily, I am blessed with an incredible network of friends and family whom I know I can talk to about anything and everything (and likewise with them).
2. Write a journal – Whether it be on the good days or the bad days. What we might look at now as a bad thing, later we can look back and reflect on how far we’ve come since that point. Documenting the good things in your life will give you the ‘pick me up’ that you need and give you even more of a reason to want to move forward.
3. Embrace what life is trying to teach you – I am a firm believer of ‘everything happens for a reason’. Almost everything in life will create somewhat of a lesson for us to reflect on. When you find yourself at a low point not only do you learn something generally, I find that you also learn a lot more about yourself.
4. Do the things that make you happy! – As simple as it sounds, do things that you enjoy.
There is no better way to take your mind off of things than being surrounded by the things and the people you love.
The most important priority you need to maintain is yourself. It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself and make your happiness a priority – it’s necessary.
'Self-love is the greatest middle finger of all time'.
